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NIKOL JOHNSON

Beauty Reinvented with Gray Hair

Hello Blog, It’s Me Nikol

November 14, 2019 ·

I realized on a recent flight this month that I have not been writing on this blog as much as I would like for 2019. This post will be a little catch-up and news on upcoming events. Most of the content I upload is here and here, but I view this blog as an outlet to interview other women that are breaking the beauty rules to encouraging you through your transitioning beauty.

Hello Blog, It's Me Nikol

To catch you up to speed on where I have been for the past six months, I have been in the studio filming and producing videos that feature makeup tutorials on women from fifties to eighty-four on my YouTube channel, which hit 80K subscribers. These videos have been such a rewarding series called #FierceAging. The series started as a four-part series but now has turned into a monthly feature. I have an inspiring project coming up that I will be announcing on my YouTube channel and Newsletter, so make sure you tune in and are signed up (find my sign up here).

If you have not joined my private Beauty Reinvented Facebook group, this is the perfect time to get inspiration and support from women all over the world. We are almost at seven thousand women sharing and helping each other through aging and gray hair. I am so proud of this little group, and I have been posting LIVE Q&A’s randomly to answer your questions in real-time.

If you love Fresh Beauty Studio Cosmetics/Nikol Cosmetics or are curious, get ready for Black Friday and Cyber Monday! New beauty products added every week. You don’t want to miss out on the specials that are coming up for the holiday season. Early access will be announced here, so make sure you are signed up.

I hope you ladies are doing well and are enjoying all the content that I am creating for you on all my platforms.

Hello Blog, It's Me Nikol

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Lifestyle
Tagged: Anti Aging, Beauty Reinvented, bold beauty, boss babe, fierce beauty, Gray Hair Journey, Nikol Johnson, Over 40, over 40 style, White Hair, woman on top, Women Empowerment, women encouragement, women helping women, women power, Women who gray, Women with Gray hair

Why I Almost Deleted This Video

January 14, 2019 ·

Why I Almost Deleted This Video

It’s one thing to film a video it’s another to edit it and then watch it back. I was surprised at the reaction I had recently when I unexpectedly met another Silver Sister waiting in a line.

Why I Almost Deleted This Video

It’s becoming more apparent to me that it’s not just about the silver hair color that is connecting and pulling us together like a magnet. It’s bigger than that. The line of connection runs deep down into the soul of who we are and who we want to be in this world.

My video titled “How to Survive Your Gray Hair Journey” took an unexpected turn on the emotional roller coaster when I was filming. I never know what’s going to happen when I start shooting. On this particular video, I wanted to explain how Beauty Reinvented website even came to fruition, why I am so passionate about featuring other women on my blog and showing up in this world as a voice to break the beauty rules.

I mention a couple of examples of fate when publishing my book and meeting two women with compelling stories when I have been out and about town. I edited my video and watched it back multiple times, I started to second guess myself. Should I really be this vulnerable?

Should I let the world see me this emotional? I keep my emotions pretty close to the belt in general but after going through hell with IVF and connecting with women all over the world on what seemed to be one emotional explosion. I am much more lenient with myself when I have these little passionate windows to my soul.

Ladies, have you stopped and thought what your gray hair journey is all about? Is it really about hair color? Age? Or are you creating a bold voice/movement in society and within yourself?

I have sat and stared at the sky and thought how silly that I would let other peoples rules and ideas affect how I show up visually to the world. And I am so happy that I took the plunge in my thirties and said I DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE HAS TO SAY ABOUT MY HAIR COLOR!!!!!!!

It’s about your attitude, building yourself up from the inside out and stepping into the uncomfortable feelings. If you are feeling uncomfortable, you are right where you need to be on this journey.

I decided that I wouldn’t be embarrassed or apologize about this video and how much I wave my hands around or how passionate I got on the topic. Most days I am still trying to be “perfect” but videos like this tell me to just be real and go with it. Stop fighting who you are and let that woman out.

Why I Almost Deleted This Video

 

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Lifestyle
Tagged: Beauty Reinvented, Gray Hair, Grey Hair, Nikol Johnson, over 40 style, Silver Hair, White Hair

Versace, Bulgari and a Breast Pump

December 20, 2018 ·

Versace, Bulgari and a Breast Pump Review By Nikol Johnson

You know I couldn’t stay away from this topic! It’s just too juicy. Shedding some light on another controversial natural occurrence is breastfeeding, and it’s a touchy subject with a lot of people. Why? Well, you know just like having gray hair it’s weird and makes people feel uncomfortable, yet it’s natural. Go figure.

Rachel McAdams an actress that kept most of her pregnancy under the covers has slowly been talking publicly about her seven-month-old. Rachael appears on the cover of Girls, Girls, Girls a leading independent editorial women’s fashion magazine. Instead of going on and on about how feeding a baby from a breast freaks people out I am going to let the photographer and Girls, Girls Girls publication founder Claire Rothstein take it from here.
One look at Claire’s Instagram feed that is oozing with female sexuality, elegance and fierce attitude will have you captivated. Her Instagram caption on the photo she took of Rachel is everything.

 

 

 

 

 

 
 
 
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A million reasons why I wanted to post this picture. Obviously #rachelmcadams looks incredible and was quite literally the dream to work with but also this shoot was about 6 months post her giving birth to her son, so between shots she was expressing/pumping as still breastfeeding. We had a mutual appreciation disagreement about who’s idea it was to take this picture but I’m still sure it was hers which makes me love her even more. Breastfeeding is the most normal thing in the world and I can’t for the life of me imagine why or how it is ever frowned upon or scared of. I don’t even think it needs explaining but just wanted to put this out there, as if it even changes one person’s perception of something so natural, so normal, so amazing then that’s great. Besides she’s wearing Versace and @bulgariofficial diamonds and is just fucking major. Big shout out to all the girls 💪🏽 #rachelmcadams for @girls.girls.girls.magazine cover shoot 📸 @clairerothstein #pleaseshare Side note: I did not look anywhere near as fabulous as this when feeding/pumping. And that’s ok too. Stylist: @alicialombardini 👠 . #girlsgirlsgirlsmag #girlsgirlsgirls #bringingbackthewoman #nogrungejustglamour #independentmagazine #printisnotdead #normalisebreastfeeding #normalizebreastfeeding #breastfeeding #life #women #versace #bulgari

 

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I love how Rachel looked raw and real plus ultra glamorous with and without the breast pump for this photo shoot. She radiates from within and shows the world that breastfeeding should be praised not shamed. I get that she had a complete stylist/hair and makeup team not to mention she was in designer clothes, BUT she chose to keep the breast pumps in the shot. It wasn’t a prop it was a real-life Mother working and trying to keep up with a newborn. This Ladies is precisely why I LOVE this photo shoot.

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Fashion, Lifestyle
Tagged: breast pump, breastfeeding, clair rothstein, claire rothstein, girls girls girls, girls magazine, Gray Hair, rachel mcadams

Is One Voice Enough?

December 17, 2018 ·

Is One Voice Enough?

Gabrielle Union is the latest woman up on the chopping block because of her infertility and the picture of her holding her newborn in a hospital gown skin on skin.  Before I jump into this topic, let me give you a little bit of background. 

Is One Voice Enough?

Gabrielle Union is an American actress, activist, and author. She is married to NBA star Dwyane Wade and is very open about her struggles to conceive. Even though I don’t know Gabrielle personally if we met, we would understand each other without having to say a word.

You see, we are both IVF sisters we share a silent bond of struggle, sadness, longing, heartache, and loss we also share a late diagnosis of endometriosis.

Dealing with painful periods my entire life was one thing and has since lessened after the endometriosis surgery but the pain of not being able to have a biological child well, that pain will last a lifetime.

Is One Voice Enough?
Is One Voice Enough?

Even though it seems like everyone is doing IVF or having fertility struggles coming forward publicly is not easy. Gabrielle’s decision to share her journey helps other women that might be silently enduring the pain of infertility.

When I saw the post on Instagram from Oprah saying that Gabrielle is receiving unfair criticism and Mommy shamming about the pregnancy and childbirth of her daughter it enraged me. Thank goodness Gabrielle was able to use a surrogate.

I am not sure why this is such a big deal to people, but it seems that Gabrielle was wearing a hospital gown and holding her newborn skin to skin common protocol for a new Mother. The public took this as she was trying to “pretend” she had the baby herself.

I am outraged that people are saying that she is “trying to pretend she had the baby.” For starters, Gabrielle went through eight to nine miscarriages (she has said she lost count of how many) and another eight failed IVF cycles. She has been completely transparent about her baby journey.

For the people that have made a negative comment it’s out of ignorance and the intent to spread negativity. Just like with any other life issue or struggle you will never know how it feels unless you are going or have been through it. When are we going to stop this negative cycle towards women?

The scary thing is most of these comments come from women. Why is it that we all think that we need to state our opinion, thoughts, or advice to a stranger on social media?  

“WHEN ARE WE GOING TO STOP THIS NEGATIVE CYCLE TOWARDS WOMEN?”

I understand everyone wants to have a say in the social abyss. We have created a platform for every person with a keyboard under their fingers to chime in anonymously and give you their opinion about anything and everything.

I am not saying you can’t have a voice, but it seems that most of the nasty negative comments come without education or facts and THAT’S what the issue is especially when dealing with sensitive women issues. If we came together to help and support women when dealing with pregnancy, surrogacy, miscarriage and infertility problems maybe there wouldn’t be such a taboo hush-hush cloud covering these topics.

I thought after writing for three years for Not Just a Beauty Blogger that I wouldn’t really get involved in issues like this anymore, but it just hits a chord with me.

Is one voice enough? This question comes up a lot for me. Somedays when I get bombarded with negative and downright cruel comments about my appearance on YouTube I think why am I even doing this! Why even try and help women with their beauty when I get so much hate from WOMEN.

I then realize that my voice is POWERFUL, BOLD and UNAPOLOGETIC beyond measure. I open the folder I made on my computer for what I like to call my email “love letters’ that I have received from women all over the world. I read through these emails and feel recharged. It gives me hope to hear how much I have impacted their life whether that might be through my IVF blog, Fresh Beauty Studio’s blog or my Beauty YouTube channel.

So I ask myself this again ‘Is one voice enough?’I would say YES! One voice starts the movement of change. Luckily my voice was united with dozens of other women that had or were going through their own fertility journey back in 2014. Together we did and do make an impact on educating the public on infertility and endometriosis.
So ladies, if you are sitting behind your laptop or mobile device today feeling overwhelmed by what strangers have said to you about the color of your hair maybe you are feeling you are too old to date or feel like a big fat failure because you are or have struggled with fertility.  Know you are not alone.

We can make a difference and stop this negative cycle of comments by choosing the words we allow out of our mouths. Check in with yourself and open your heart and arms to women just like yourself that are struggling (don’t kid yourself, we are all challenged in some way throughout the years) through this thing we call life.

Is One Voice Enough?

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Lifestyle
Tagged: Beauty Reinvented, gabrielle union, gabrielle union infertility, Grey Hair, INFERTILITY, Over 40, over 50, women encouragement, women supporting women

Why This Happened After The Victoria’s Secret Runway Show

December 5, 2018 ·

Why This Happened After The Victoria's Secret Runway Show

Like most of the world, I was excited to see the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show on ABC the other night. I love the production aspect of the show, the musical talent, the adorned angel wings, the flowy silky material cascading off the model’s bodies but this show struck me as a little stale, behind the times and not empowering women.

The opening song was by Lelea James, a gorgeous singer that belted out the song “This is Me.” A song about being yourself and not letting people break you down. Great choice by Victoria’s Secret executives but that’s where the women empowerment stopped.

Model after model was an unrealistic size 2 (what’s new?), and max age twenty-two OK maybe there was a model that could be pushing twenty-five but you get the picture. I was waiting for the diversity to pop out behind the stage with wings pointed to the high heavens but it didn’t happen.

I thought well maybe Lelea will rip off that red dress she’s wearing and have this magnificent ensemble on????? Wait, they had to have booked Maye Musk because she’s killing it at seventy but sadly NO. Where were the over forty models heck over seventy models WHERE WERE THEY? NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.

I sat there and thought does Victoria’s Secret a lingerie company that makes everything from sleepwear to bustiers believe that women over forty are not their customers? Or would the argument be that the world doesn’t want to see older women in lingerie walking down a runway? Ahhhhhh Houston I think we have a problem. How can we as women relate to a show about femininity, come as you are, break the barriers when the entire show is one dimensional?

I woke up the next morning thinking maybe I missed the plus size girls or did they rock it with some gray-haired models? I texted my girlfriend to double check before I posted anything on Instagram. Then this happened.

Victoria's Secret Runway Show

Victoria's Secret Runway Show

So I am not the only one that thought there was something wrong with the show? So proud of these girls for speaking up and doing their thing right in the middle of Times Square. Bravo!

Victoria's Secret Runway Show

Excerpt from the New York Post article:

The Siberia native and former “America’s Next Top Model” contestant came up with the idea of staging a guerrilla-style fashion show as a response to the less-than-inclusive Victoria’s Secret lingerie event.

Kazakova told The Post, “I was talking with my friends like, ‘Oh my gosh, it makes me feel horrible.’ A lot of people feel unattractive after watching it.”


Again, we need companies that we buy from supporting women of all ages, hair colors and sizes. Lingerie is not just for models that have a hip measurement of thirty-two but for all women to feel that they too can be sexy, demure, confident insert whatever adjective makes you happy.

Victoria's Secret Runway Show

I am so tired of this one-sided view of beauty. Nothing will ever change unless women speak up and ask for change. Yes, that’s right Ladies, you have to ask for it to see anything change. You want a raise ASK FOR IT, you want to change the way your PTA meetings are held ASK FOR IT, you don’t like the way your landlord speaks to you SAY SOMETHING. I don’t sit back and say well, I guess that’s just the way it is going to be right now. I get involved and stand up for myself. Ignite your power, make the decision and do it.

This aging issue is so big and has been happening for so long that it will take women on a mission to move the limited thinking on age. Just like the bold women in Times Square that made a statement so can you. I want to make myself very clear here this blog post is about the aging issue and how society views women that are aging.  This is not about a “Me Too” movement or a march nor is it about wanting to be younger, thinner or jealous of these models. I had my glory days being an international model and walking the runway for many designers worldwide. I am showing up representing women that are aging, letting their hair go gray and keeping their voice alive. There is nothing wrong with a forty-year-old or an eighty-year-old on a Victoria Secret runway. I would love to know who is making the final cut on these models? Is it all women? Men and women? Or just men?

I know one thing for sure if a modeling agent sent Winnie Harlow the first model to walk Victoria’s Secret runway with Vitiligo (a skin disease where you lose the pigment in your skin) to the casting five years ago she would have never been considered. I can say this from my experience being a model and traveling the globe. If you so much as had a pimple on your face forget it they would say NEXT much less an issue where the pigment of your skin is lost creating large white areas on dark skin. The modeling industry has always been extremely harsh and there is no room for imperfection. It might not seem this way now since we see companies using plus-size models to transgender models, but the industry was not so forgiving just years prior.

Congratulations to women like Winnie and the plus-size women in Times Square that are boldly showing up in the world despite the strict “must be perfect” box.

 

Victoria's Secret Runway Show

 

 

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Fashion, Lifestyle
Tagged: aging women, Gray Hair, mature women, model, victoria secret, victoria's secret

Your Power Move

October 29, 2018 ·

I reflected on my gray hair journey a lot over the last year writing my first book Beauty Reinvented available December 1st, 2018. I second-guessed my decision to go gray probably a thousand times a day. I got so fed up with allowing myself to feel weak that I made my POWER MOVE. I walked right into my gray hair journey like a woman that knew what she wanted even if I was still a little unsure of what I was doing.  When you decide that you are committed to your gray hair journey you step into your power.

Your Power Move

PC: Rick Gomez Photography | Pants: Celine Similiar here | Lipstick: |Top: Similar here | Shoes: Similar here | Purse: Similiar here | Sunglasses

Owning my crazy gray hair and labeling it my Power Move made me feel as though I was in control when I felt everything but in control. Society, friends, your boss can make you shrink in your stiletto’s and have you feeling like you are making the biggest mistake of your life. “No Sally, why would you do that to your hair?” “Jane, are you kidding? You will look so old.” or how about your own limiting beliefs like I could never get that job if I had gray hair! I see it over and over again on my private Facebook group (Beauty Reinvented) women posting day after day about their friend, or Mother saying how old they will look if they let their hair go gray.

Enough with the low vibe thoughts, statements and letting people or strangers inside your power space. Own what you feel is right for your life. The biggest point I want to make with you is that you are the one wearing the gray hair, YOU not them so whether you dye your hair or not it is your decision period.

Your Power Move

PC: Rick Gomez Photography

It’s funny how I went through infertility researching my way to a real diagnosis. I got thrown into this group of people labeled “unexplained infertility” what does that even mean “unexplained?’ What, you can’t explain it? After five hundred tests you still can’t explain it? Interesting (eye roll). I found out that “unexplained infertility” is not a real diagnosis the more appropriate description would be a lazy diagnosis.  I heard day after day how I had “advanced maternal aging” labeled, labeled and just labeled. Then here comes the gray hair now I have to deal with yet another layer of labels. When is society going to wake up and start thinking for themselves? The entire world can’t possibly believe that gray hair means one thing “OLD” or does it?

Listening to your Mother ramble on about how your gray hair will make her feel older, society telling you that you just put one foot in the grave, or the stranger creeping up behind you at the grocery store running his mouth takes you out of your power. You give up your positive energy flow when you don’t think for yourself. You dye your hair because that is what the magazines are showing each month and what the TV commercials are telling you is beautiful. See that’s the issue ladies, I will say it again, it’s not about if you dye your hair or not. It’s about taking control of your life and listening to yourself on what you want to look like at this very moment. When you stop and take the time to listen to what you feel deep down inside, that is when you will find your personal power.

How is the thought of gray hair making you feel?

Do you feel liberated? Do you feel sad?

Do you feel like you can take over the world with your new hair sans the dye?

What makes you tick when it comes to your beauty?

Those are the questions I want you asking yourself today.

Your Power Move

PC: Rick Gomez Photography

Gray hair seems trivial in the big scheme of things with so much going on in the world today. But when you decide to let your silver shine your world can become very small, depressing and isolating. Where is your power then? How do you feel beautiful with silver hair when all you have known is black hair, brown hair, red or blonde?

Stop letting the world tell you how you should be wearing your hair. I don’t care if you are eighteen or eighty-eight silver, gray or white hair is a power move so Ladies, drop the baggage and step into your bold future.

 


Your Power Move

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Fashion, Lifestyle

“Worth $49 Unlimited.”

May 14, 2018 ·

"Worth $49 Unlimited."

This blog post is inspired by a company that stole this picture below of me recently to advertise their company in a sponsored post on Instagram. They told me that they could buy my pictures for “$49 with unlimited usage.”  Not true but I am not going to get into the legal issue of using copyright photos without permission in this post, however, I will get into how you value your worth.

Copyright Photo: Rick Gomez Photos

Who do you allow to tell you what you are worth? Society? Your job? Social Media? Your peers? Your husband/boyfriend/partner? Making bold choices in life takes a particular type of person and personality, and everyone is capable of developing this type of attitude.

I spend extended hours planning and scheduling my photo, shopping and styling clothes for the right “look” for the shoot, doing my hair and makeup, creating a “theme” for each photo session and paying my photographer. Nothing comes easy when you are building original content for your brand. Having a company take my photos and use them for their benefit without permission is just unreal to me but seems to be a new reality. No responsibility, no morals, no honesty take, take, take. A company telling me I am worth 49 dollars was amusing to me but what happens if I took that to heart? What if I started to believe that? The book I am reading currently You Are What You Think, says it perfectly “Words, said either in the privacy of the mind or spoken aloud, are powerful.” What are you saying to yourself about your worth?

I wrote about how we have a whole new type of insecurity because of social media. We place value on ourselves because of a number on our account, a number of followers, google analytics. Think about that for a second and say it out loud. How ridiculous does that sound? I get it when it comes to building your company and brand image, but numbers and followers are not the entire picture. You have so much to offer this world ladies; it doesn’t start and stop with social media.

I am going to share with you a couple of practices that I have found to be helpful when you need a break or if you feel like everyone else has the “Gorgeous life,” “Perfect family” “Best body.”

  1. Take a 24-hour break from all social media (yes, believe me, you can do it, and you might like it). Breaks will give you time to switch off your brain and the constant scrolling.
  2. Want a more extended break? Delete the (Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, etc.) app not your account from your phone. This way you won’t feel tempted to get on and download everyone else’s life.
  3. Grab a cup of Dream Dust and download a guided meditation app (I love using Mindful Meditation right before going to bed) on your phone to replace the time you spend on social media. Night time rituals like these will give you time to regroup and be inspired by YOUR life not everyone else’s life.
  4. Put your phone in another room before going to bed. Waking up and checking your social media before your eyes are even open sets the tone for the entire day and this might not be positive for you. Replace checking your feeds with breathing techniques, five-minute meditation or writing in your journal on your intentions for your day, week, month.
  5. Spend your time reading a motivating book. Maybe you want to write a book, or you want to learn how to get to the next level in your job. Spend your valuable time feeding your brain and getting productive, positive information that will advance your career and enhance your life.

These are just some suggestions, ask for what you are worth, don’t second guess yourself and always know that YOU and only you are the one that decides what you are worth.


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Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Lifestyle
Tagged: Anti Aging, Beauty Reinvented, beauty unfiltered, bold beauty, boss babe, girl boss, Girl Power, Going Gray, Gray Hair, Gray Hair Journey, gray hair model, gray hair models, international women's day, Nikol Johnson, over 50 style, self worth, Silver Hair, Silver Sister Spotlight, woman on top, women encouragement, women helping women, Women with Gray hair

You Are Not Broken Just Bent

May 7, 2018 ·

You Are Not Broken Just Bent By On Air Beauty Specialist Nikol

One of the many reasons I love spinning is that my mind runs free. I can think clearly, and many blog posts were created right in the saddle mid-song. I am inspired by music and working on my body so much that I filmed a video on my Peloton Hack if you haven’t seen it check it out, I save you thousands of dollars with this hack, and you get a sexy summer body, you’re welcome.

You Are Not Broken Just Bent

Copyright: Rick Gomez Photography Top: Polo Ralph Lauren (similar here) Pants: Oscar de la Renta vintage (similar here, here and here) Shoes: Frontline 105 by Tamara Mellon

One of the songs on my ride today was by PINK called “Just Give Me a Reason”. I have heard this song a million times but never actually listened to the lyrics. Isn’t that so typical? I am listening to the song and most the time humming what I think are the words, and yet I am missing the entire meaning of the song. Pink sings about being not broken but bent, how incredibly beautiful is this statement?  I go around thinking I am broken because I haven’t been able to conceive, I go about figuring I am broken because I went gray early on in life. Thinking this way is incredibly harmful self-talk a topic I have been researching and found this book to be very helpful. It has shown me ways to understand why choosing healthy positive thoughts is crucial to balance and happiness.

As I was climbing my hills this morning I thought back to a show I saw on how they make steel drums. That captivating sound that only a steel drum can make doesn’t come easy, there are multiple steps from stretching to create enough space for the notes, pounding with a sledgehammer to create the concave shape (sounds painless lol), cutting, burning the list goes on. Without all these steps to refine the steel to make beautiful music, it would just be ordinary steel. I started to think that if I didn’t experience infertility, I wouldn’t have been stretched, refined, put under the fire to ignite my desire to help women with their journey, to get to know myself and what I was capable of doing. Going gray in my thirties was just a little bend in my steel, a refinement if you will.

Ladies, look at what you think are imperfections in your beauty, your life as just a little bend something that makes you different and unique. That is how we each enrich the lives of everyone that gets to know us. No two women will have the same bends in their steel; no two women will have gone through the same process of refinement. Honor that, own that and set yourself free. This summer every time you see or hear steel drums you will think of how one-of-a-kind, special and deserving you are to the world.

You Are Not Broken Just Bent

Posted by Nikol / Filed In: Beauty, Lifestyle
Tagged: Anti Aging, Beauty Reinvented, fierce beauty, girl boss, Girl Power, Going Gray, Gray Hair Journey, gray hair model, gray hair models, gray hair style, how to get style, Over 40, over 40 style, over 50 style, Silver Hair, Silver Sister Spotlight, White Hair, Women Empowerment, women encouragement, Women with Gray hair

What Does Being A Girl Boss Mean?

April 3, 2018 ·

What Does Being A Girl Boss Mean?

#Girlboss, #Bossbabe, #LikeABoss are thrown around like candy in a social media world that’s all about image and the perception of success. What does being a Girl Boss mean? Is there pressure to be this perfect woman that #slays it like a #WomanOnTop all of the time? Are we creating more pressure to be perfect, always put together with the “perfect” life or maybe I should say showing the “perfect life?” I find myself even using these hashtags as part of my daily vocabulary and using them in my Instagram posts like they are going out of style. I even sell travel mugs in my studio that says “Like A Boss.” We all want positive images, mantras, phrases but where do trends stop and real life takes over? For the last couple of months every time I use one of these hashtags I think to myself “What does this mean?”

What Does Being A Girl Boss Mean?

Photo Credit: Rick Gomez Photography

We live in a world now that is entirely run by media, social media and what people want you to believe is right. The constant need and desire to keep up the term #WomanOnTop, to post the next best image, the next best blog post, video, podcast and when you fail to fill this social media beast you have FOMO continually.  Do I have enough followers? Oh, wait her massive following is fake? And I have been comparing myself/career/life to her?  Listen I am also in this spin cycle of our new world just like everyone else, but I have been thinking about what a #GirlBoss is/does/lives/thinks. The most important thing to remember is that you are unique and not like everyone else. You don’t need to compare yourself to the next Instagram account, Facebook “Life” or business. The power comes from within not from a hashtag.

What Does Being A Girl Boss Mean?

Photo Credit: Rick Gomez Photography

So what is a Girl Boss? Ask yourself that question, what does that mean to you?

What does a Girl Boss do? Is she a Mom that manages a household? Is she your retired neighbor that grows a garden? Is she your doctor? Is she the line cook at your daughter’s school? Is she YOU? Do you see where I am going with this?

Where does a Girl Boss live? LOL, this is getting silly because she lives everywhere in the world!

How does a Girl Boss think? Take the label off because you are a woman of power, of light, of discipline, of love. You have so much more to yourself than trying to be a Girl Boss.

Let me say there is nothing wrong with trends etc. or wanting to be a Girl Boss. I am pointing out that getting caught up in a trendy label, pushing yourself to be at some social media level of success is not something to strive for, it’s just that trendy.

What Does Being A Girl Boss Mean?

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Do I struggle with keeping up with the social media whirlwind I mean what entrepreneur doesn’t? I sometimes wish we could go back to 1988 where your phone had a cord attached to the wall, you weren’t allowed to have a phone in your room, and when you went out, NO ONE THOUGHT YOU WERE DEAD IF THEY COULDN”T REACH YOU. Constant pressure to have better numbers not only with your bank account but in your social media accounts it’s almost like we don’t have a name just value by numbers. I think #Girlboss has seen its day and women are looking for more substance, more depth, more connection to not only a popular saying.

How you show up to the world is what is powerful, how you handle yourself in challenging situations is powerful. Life is not always comfortable, and with all the distractions we face now it’s incredible that we get anything done. We have apps that can deliver you anything from coffee to a driver. If you don’t get the information in a Nanosecond, the world feels like it’s coming unglued. Ask yourself what empowers you? What makes you feel powerful? I can tell you that it’s not Instagram or Facebook or a hashtag behind your name that says #Girlboss. In recent studies, one in five people say they feel depressed as a result of using social media.

Create your reality one that is real and true. Set out to impress yourself not anyone else. Reach for your goals, take that class, turn off your phone, look around, live, breathe, love, share, talk, speak, listen, hug, encourage, feel, because THAT is what counts ladies. You are what you believe and say to yourself start writing your story and live it.

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